Starting off the new year with an idea that had been on my mind. When god was ready for it to come to forum he placed it in my mind, my heart, and right in front of my eyes. We all know that as of lately going “Natural” has been “the move”. Don’t get me wrong I am very proud of these changes because it’s very beneficial. But I’ve come across many women that were regretful, confused, and just following the crowd.
I wear many hats and one of those being a hairstylist. I love all my clients they bring me so much joy, new ideas, and great conversation. Which was a great force behind my idea of this hair tag. Many clients and others have asked me “are you relaxed?” and after I would say yes they would immediately respond and ask “Why?”.
So at first, I had to process that being relaxed wasn’t apart of the society norms anymore even though the same women asking me that question were relaxed not too long ago. In my new project (not yet released) I compared natural vs. relaxed to the light skinned vs. dark skinned issue. I noticed that as African American women their is always SOMETHING used to separate and categorize our race as if it isn’t enough of that going on in the world already.
“Growing up it was ‘your pretty for a dark skinned girl’ and now this, i’m just wondering when is it going to stop?”
I had to ask myself why did I really love my relaxed hair because now it was being questioned, challenged, and frowned upon. By the people who say “you really shouldn’t put chemicals in your hair” and “you don’t love the natural tresses that grow from your head”.
For me that was not true at all. Being relaxed is a choice and it isn’t something that I did because everyone else was doing it or that it was acceptable to society. I’ve been relaxed since I was a small child and its always worked for me. I love my hair straight and I can wear my hair in many different styles and it is very flexible and versatile. My hair is very healthy and thick and this is true for many many relaxed women around the world.
-Kalisha Jones
Being relaxed is a choice, just like being natural is a choice, just like bleaching your hair, what you eat for dinner, and what you chose to learn. Relaxed ladies don’t be discouraged, don’t give up on something just to follow the trend. I know it’s hard to do when all you see is naturalista’s all over, but I am here and hopefully more relaxed ladies will join me in telling you WHY WE LOVE OUR RELAXED HAIR and just maybe it’ll help you love your relaxed hair too.
Do what you love, and love what you do.
–Brianne.Live
BriannaRashay 
Hello ladies,
I love my relaxed hair because it is much easier to manage and maintain. It can be versatile too. I attempted to transition and found it extremely hard to manage. My hair begin to matte because I didn’t come it daily. However, with my relaxed hair, I can wear a style 2 or 3 day without combing and the detangling process is just fine.
My relaxed hair completes me. I don’t care how naturals feel or what people say about the chemically process product. Coloring your hair is damaging, but no one complains about that. Relaxer, I love it. We are all going to die one day, and if I don’t from a relaxer then so be it. I’ll be happy. Lol
Relaxed or Texlaxed love your hair! If you’re happy don’t worry about what others think.
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😍😍 Amazing story thanks for participating love!
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Hi Brianne! This is my favourite blog because I used to be insecure about my relaxed hair because natural girls made me feel bad. But after reading this, I learned to love and embrace my relaxed hair. ❤
(btw this is part of my entry for the giveaway ^^)
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Beautifully stated Brianna. I am so proud of you.
And you are beautiful (you always have been) — for any color girl! You get it from your mama, and your great Auntie Geraldine. 🙂
Big hug,
Cousin Wanda
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I didn’t grow up with anyone telling me my natural hair was “ugly” and needed “to be fixed.” My hair wasn’t politicized and having a “certain grade” wasn’t used to condemn or glorify me. So going natural and reclaiming that “power” isn’t necessary for me.
I got that it means that for most women who go natural. But that isn’t my story.
I relax my hair because I want to and frankly I’m over explaining why to people. It’s my body, it’s my hair, so it’s my right to do whatever I please. 🙂
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It has been so hard to find relaxed or even texlaxed women on the internet and I have been lucky enough to find a good few after your relaxed hair tag series. It was inspiring and encouraging especially with the influx of natural chicks. I love your outlook on hair growth, the relaxing process and how we can all attain healthy relaxed hair.
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Thanks so much love! I was honored to share those ladies stories and show them to the world!
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